Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Working Mom Blues

Pei Wei Date With Jessica

Being the mom of two teenagers is the most rewarding yet challenging job in the world.  I love being a mom more than anything.  I also love my "real world" job.  I enjoy it so much that I often think about going back to school to get my Masters in either Marketing or Advertising.  That would be in a time far, far off.  Like after my kids are fully educated and grown. 

One of the hardest parts about being a mom is feeling that tug between work and home.  If I need to leave to take a kid to an appointment or attend a special function, I feel like I'm letting my co-workers down. If I let my son walk home in torrential rains, I clearly have let my son down.  Every day these two parts of my life push and pull until I feel like I'm not doing a very good job taking care of either one.

In an ideal world, I would have been a stay-at-home mom.  But, that wasn't to be my world.  So, I have to make the best out of this world.  My kids have to wait until the weekend before the good meals are served up or before we pull out the fun activities.  There are so many disadvantages.  I could make a long list of them.  Hopefully, they will remember all of the special things that we did as a family, and not what they missed.  More than anything, I hope that they remember that they were loved.

"There is no one perfect way to be a good mother. Each situation is unique. Each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children. The choice is different and unique for each mother and each family. Many are able to be “full-time moms,” at least during the most formative years of their children’s lives, and many others would like to be. Some may have to work part-or full-time; some may work at home; some may divide their lives into periods of home and family and work. What matters is that a mother loves her children deeply and, in keeping with the devotion she has for God and her husband, prioritizes them above all else."  

-Russell M. Nelson

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